Throughout life, there are lessons from family, friends, teachers or mentors that remain imprinted into the mold of who we are.
While countless lessons have contributed to the woman I am today, as a young photographer, college student, daughter, sister and friend, one lesson taught in one of my high school classes continuously presents it's importance. That lesson is the value of living in a "table world" and picking the right people to sit at your table.
Often, like so many, I become consumed in my goals with my eyes constantly on the prize. While ambition is essential in achieving what we want most in life, it can put blinders on each side of your eyes, blocking you from the reality that you share this world with many others. Being in a “table world” means taking off the blinders to not only pursue your passions for the betterment of yourself but for the betterment of the people in the world around you.
Each of us are born with talents that we build upon as we grow. Because the essence of the human experience resides on the relationships that we have with one another, spreading our talents to help those around us not only creates a stronger community but a stronger world as well. However, it all starts with us and the choice of how we want to go into the world and what we want to contribute to it.
To begin true positive change in the world, we should all adopt the mentality of living in a “table world”.
"If You Want To Go Fast, Go Alone. If You Want To Go Far, Go Together." – African Proverb
The People Who Sit at Your Table
Love and positivity have always kept me grounded in who I am. Through that, I always strive to surround myself with people who actively embody that. After all, I would not be the woman I am without the people that I have kept close to me. However, surrounding yourself with people who embody positivity isn’t easy. There are many times in life that we have to turn away negativity, before it holds us back and consumes us, even if it means creating distance from people who are close to us.
I’ve learned that in order to make others happy, you must first be entirely happy yourself, but who you choose to surround yourself with has a lot to do with that. To be the best version of yourself, surround yourself with people who love you, want the best for you, challenge you and serve as a constant light in your life. Finding people like this is not easy but will help take you farther than you ever imagined.
Choose wisely my friends.
“We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves.” - Matthew Kelly